She came to me with a lifetime of evidence for her laziness.

Groceries door dashed instead of planning, then going to the shops. Voice memo texts instead of typing her replies. Canteen lunches instead of packed lunches. Ordering takeout more than she "should."

She rattled off each example like she was building a case against herself. And in her mind, the verdict was already in: lazy. Failing. Not good enough.

But here's the thing about evidence - it doesn't interpret itself. The same facts can tell completely different stories depending on the lens you're looking through.

And she'd been looking through the wrong lens her entire life.

Take a second and be honest with yourself: How depleted are you? Not the "I'm fine, just busy" version you tell everyone else. The real answer.

If you're like most ADHD and autistic women I work with, the answer is: you’re doing far worse than you want to admit.